How YOU Doin’???

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I turned on the show Friends the other night and there was Joey Tribbiani saying his catchphrase line “How you doin’?” to a girl at Central Perk, the coffee shop where that loveable group of friends would hang out at.

The next morning I couldn’t get that phrase “How you doin’?” out of my head.

The funny thing is it reminded me to check in with myself to see how I was doing.

I have been practicing checking in with myself for about four months now.

So why is that important?

I learned about this practice from Jonathan Manske’s book The Law of Attraction Made Simple. He states that “the only thing in this universe that you can control is yourself and specifically your mood, attitude and language. Contrary to popular opinion, you and you alone are responsible for your mood, your attitude and your state of being. Absolutely nobody can make you feel a certain way. How you feel is up to you!”

This starts by taking responsibility for your state of mind.

Do this by checking in with yourself several times during the day. I have found that a good time to do this is when you are between tasks. This will allow you to confirm that you are in the right state of mind. If so, you continue on to the next item on your action list.

If not, this gives you the opportunity to change your attitude.

I do this by taking a break, getting up from my desk and moving around. Do something physical. Stretch, do some sit-ups, or maybe even a few push-ups. Often I will go for a short walk to clear my head.

During these times I will think about my next item on my list to tackle that day and give myself a pep talk to get ready it. I will use the phrase “I can do this (substitute your task for this) and I’m doing it!”

At first it will sound funny, but it works. As you are checking in with yourself spend a few minutes visualizing the steps you will take to do the task and how you will feel when you can check it of your list.

Reinforce it with positive statements like “I choose to”, or “I will” to help put you in the right frame of mind.

Taking responsibility for your feelings is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. It can really influence the way your day will go.

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Gary Patton

Chief Connecting Officer at On Purpose Leadership
An Accomplished Business Consultant with over twenty-five years of experience in sales, management, training, and operations, Gary has worked with over 2,000 businesses to design and implement solutions to significantly increase their market share, customer service, revenue, and profitability.
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